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being infantilized (another rant)

abelincable • Mar 18, 2026 @ 9:48am

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I hate being infantilized because I'm autistic, like what I can handle myself, dude, I'm not a baby. It's so weird when people baby me because I don't like certain things or routines, or when they get mad at me for not liking something I've expressed a lot. I am grown enough ot handle myself, I do not need you babying me and acting like I can't handle myself. On top of that, a lot of my friends seek me for advice, so my ass if I can't do stuff by myself or help others. it makes me genuienly upset, and when i express my discomfort or if i feel overwhelemed they strat babying me again STOPWO I JUST WANT YOU TO HELP ME NOT BABY ME IOANWOFS it makes me feel icompetent but like i know im not because dude im fine but ppl like to baby me like hahhaha whataj ![](https://media4.giphy.com/media/XowfXJ04W9VGkghP9A/200w.webp?cid=5a9118711mixhzlxnbn35chjb4o9in726tqwmukni7izyme6&ep=v1_gifs_search&rid=200w.webp&ct=g)

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