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Gay experience. Explain yours if you want

noth1ng_by_nobody • Sep 10, 2026 @ 4:26pm

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I'm boyflux and bi. My gender fluxuates between male and neutral. I'm mostly male with small hints of neutrality. But on some days, I feel a lot more neutral. I never feel feminine, but most of the time when I feel neutral, I will dress femme. that doesn't mean that is part of my gender identity tho. That's why my pronouns are He/Them. U can use one or the other or switch between the two, but I prefer using he/him pronouns more often than netrual ones. I'm bi. It's really broad which is why I don't use polys3xual. I am attracted to 3 genders. Male, Female, and NBs or neutral gendered ppl. It doesn't really matter to me though. I wouldn't say I'm pan, bc I'm not attracted to xeno/neogenders. I don't have anything against them, its just that I have never found attraction to them. However, I do have a preference for men. It's just more common for me to be attracted to males than the other 2 genders. Little extra. I'm also aro ace flux. I experience different amounts of attraction to everyone depending on the person. Not much to add to that. I don't really use labels for HOW I experience attraction cuz its never really consistent, but that is how I would generally describe it. Y'all can explain yours if you want. long or short explanation is good. :P

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