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deleted_user • Jul 04, 2025 @ 8:12pm

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So I recently realized that I’m polyamorous and I have a crush on someone and I don’t know how to tell them. I kinda suck at this stuff because I’m not good at remembering I have emotions, so please someone help me figure out how to tell them Edit: I decided I’m either going to tell her right before I have dinner with my extended family tomorrow or I’ll tell her to check Kandi pad and hope she figures it out Wish me luck Edit 2: I sent her a message about two hours ago (I think i don’t really remember) and she hasn’t seen it yet an now I kinda sad :( Another edit: she read it about 4 minutes ago, I’m hoping that she’s surprised and not about to reject me Edit 4 : so I didn’t get rejected, she said she wanted to make sure that her boyfriend was okay with it (she’s also polyamorous) and said she’d tell me when she knows she hasn’t texted me yet. Edit 5: I think I got rejected cuz it’s been about 4 days (I think but idk how to math) and she hasn’t texted me back yet :( The final edit: she responded and said her boyfriend was uncomfortable with it, it seems kinda like her boyfriend had more control over this than she did because she only mentioned his feelings and not her feelings but idk

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