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So, Im confused

edrin_horror • Sep 24, 2025 @ 2:38pm

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I am a genderfluid, female-bodied person. Im okay with this. I have (i think and hope?) pretty good self-esteem. And I want that to be validated! I want people to look at me, and notice me, and tell me I'm pretty or beautiful or gorgeous. I will dress in ways that i know will get me noticed, while not being sexual. It makes me happy when im noticed, even if im not interested in the person noticing me, it feels good to essentially be told "yes you are pretty, and desirable, and deserving of being looked at and noticed". BUT I also get hit on in creepy ways a lot. Like, a LOT. And I complain about it, and I dont like it, and im scared of it. But from the outside, I feel like it looks like im just getting mad over the same kind of validation. But personally, I see it as validation versus forcing your interest on someone. Anyone else have similar experiences they wanna talk about?

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