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Ummm do any of yall relate

appleheadxmj • Jul 05, 2026 @ 10:32pm

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do any of you guys feel ashamed for just existing in front of someone sometimes? I don't know but whenever I'm around someone either very friendly towards me, attractive, or even both, I feel very ashamed of my own existence around them. And when I say attractive I'm not even talking about crushes or anything like that, just genuinely attractive people that I don't imagine myself romantically with, like girls in my school that I find pretty but not romantic towards, of course. Whenever I'm near someone really pretty and nice I always feel ashamed of my own ugliness near them. And at the orthodontist a few days ago I felt humiliated of my own personality and looks next to the lady that took x rays of my teeth and all that, because the one I was assigned to was so pretty and she was so kind towards me. And I really appreciated it, I'm not trying to be ungrateful. I don't even know how I feel this way. but I feel a deep sense of guilt that i even have the right to talk to somebody who is so kind and I can't even act just as friendly and confident back towards them, I just act awkward. I always act awkward and I genuinely just feel it, just feel how ugly I am in front of them and it genuinely makes me wanna cry tbh Sorry if this comes off as a vent I'm not even looking for mental support rn although if you do offer it I'm perfectly fine with that, but im just curious tbh,, idk why I feel like this all the time

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