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x_theactualgerdway_x • Nov 08, 2026 @ 4:30pm

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so i was exploring labels around girlflux and i was like hey ykw i kinda do feel like a guy.. but only a bit. at times. then i was like, maybe sometimes i feel way more like a guy? maybe im trans..? no, that doesnt fit me, i feel fem still. SO i then decided on demiflux, where you have one fixed gender (mine is neutral) and a little bit of your gender fluxuates. so like, one day i wake up and im like hey i feel super masc today (not rly how i feel but its an example that isnt rly me... AN EXAMPLE NONETHELESS) but i wouldnt be only masc bc i also have that neutral part. yk? BUT now my prns are they/she/he. and i would love for my parents and relatives to call me they and he and she. and they support and everything, my dads best friend is lgbtq, and one of her best friends has an alternative gender identity. but i still dont know how to ask bc like ik im rly lucky i have amazing parents and a very accepting family, but im still nervous. like what if they say smt like youre too young to know? i dont think they will , but yea lol. tips on comin out? this was long THIS DOESNT COUNT AS A VENT RITE no it doesnt, im good just a long explanation like giving background info

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