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Had my first Transphobe experience today :D

sylar1a • Nov 03, 2026 @ 11:08am

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For Context: I had my hair cut quite short recently. At school, at Lunch someone came up to me and said "are you trying to be transgendered like [Deadnamed one of my friends] " Because of my hair, I didn't answer, they repeated it I said "1: His name is ________. And 2: I am Non-binary I use They/Them pronouns" and they looked really confused and said "So you're and It" 😔😔😔 "No, I'm They/Them" then they looked confused again but walked away, I then went over to my friends. Then they came over again a bit later and was talking about whether I would be in the Girls PE group, I said "I was a girl at birth so yes", and they said "oh so your a girl" I said "No I'm Non-Binary" They then brought in the friend I mentioned before I was being Transphobic to us, saying about how Gender and Sex is the same, and how if you can change your gender then they could change their race. Then we just ignored them, they left and we told a teacher. Idk what the teacher is going to do, but I got to miss half of Geography 'cause I was reporting it :D Sorry for the really long message lol ![](https://media3.giphy.com/media/dfbHVTLpQX4Vl9bkXT/200w.webp?cid=5a911871vm7m57enrbr5ualjg30hoi5lyio7dirt135n5jg0&ep=v1_gifs_search&rid=200w.webp&ct=g)

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