help!!

I cant figure out my gender and I know I keep like replying to stuff abt this but oh my god I cannot for the life of me begin to comprehend my gender identity heres sum things I've boiled it down 2 1: not a girl 2: I don't think I'm transgender 3: unrelated but my friends think I'm autistic?? how does this relate to any of this I have no idea but if I /DO/ have autism it may be a contributing factor to why I cannot for the loving life of me figure this out (I'm not diagnosed with ANYTHING nor been like tested for anything so take this with a grain of salt) 4: I look up a bunch of like xenogenders and none of them feel right??? I feel like I've run out of options and that I need to choose one or else I'll be stuck like this for the rest of my lief :( #arrgleblargh moment