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idk how to feel about silly new feelings

solstiale • May 23, 2025 @ 12:51am

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cw for caps so i uh... i think ive started to experience ✨️queerplatonic attraction✨️ and its so... odd. like wdym i think about them a ton and want to spend my life with them but the idea of marrying them makes me think "yeah, nah"???? wdym i want to be more than friends but not in a romantic romantic way???? WDYM THEY ARE LIKE EVERY CRUSH IVE EVER HAD (like 2 lol) BUT I DONT FEEL ATTRACTED IN THE SAME WAY??????? idk guys i dont know whether to be like "oh cool, new aroace achievement unlocked! new milestone in my journey!" or "im just gonna not think about it and do nothing" OR "i will hug my pillow like its them in a friend way and imagine we go to the library and read and talk about our interests together in a smoothie shop and sit on opposite ends of the table at a respectful distance of about 2 to 3 feet" anyways hope you enjoyed the yapfest. for those who are thinking, "what the heck is this person yapping about" queerplatonic is a form of attraction and there might be other ways of describing it but for me it is "not fully romantic nor in a friend/platonic way."

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