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My pride journey

pyr0m4n14c • Jan 04, 2026 @ 10:13pm

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So, birth-early 5th I was straight ally she/her. It was until Mid-5th that I started REALLY questioning my gender. Because, like, I didn't really feel female or male, just ✨️person,✨️ so my first thought was, well, nonbinary, so they/them. At that time, and other pronouns (she, he, it, etc) really bothered me so I used them(and suffered, yk, closet), but they/them felt most, normal, ig?? I jumped to the conclusion I was nonbinary(and landed) until 6th grade when I researched agender bc my [platonic] husband/wife reccomened it to me. So, from that day to now, I am agender. I use all pronouns, still with a pref of they/them. (That no one does even though I've asked, except my queer friend I mentioned, before I told him that I used all pronouns, she would correct ppl who used she/her for me) I am questioning aroace, or smth in that area bc I STILL have seen NOBODY attractive before, like, ever. I don't mind the idea of romance(ships, romance books, romance movies, ect.) but I don't want it for myself. Uhh, adult activities(iykyk) REPEL me. It's like I'm a roach and that is Raid. It REPELS me. It's nasty, I hate the idea of it, I don't want it. If y'all have flags that might fit better, tell me. I want to finure my shit out so fucking BAD. PLEASE TELL ME! Note: I'm not in 6th anymore and I will not be desclosing the grade i'm in.

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