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Need help with pronouns :/

nico_di_angelo • Nov 08, 2026 @ 9:59pm

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So lately I have been feeling like I would want to start using He\Him and They\Them pronouns. The only thing is that I wouldn’t really want to have too many masc labels. If I were to become a parent I wouldn’t want to be called dad. I also wouldn’t want to be called a man or a boy. I would still just like to use parent or person. I also wouldn’t want to use the men’s washroom at all either. (I was born female) I would identify as trans masc and nonbinary at the same time or maybe a demiboy but I was wondering if there was a label that would fit for someone who uses He\Him and They\Them but prefers non binary labels like example: Person instead of boy. One more thing is that some days I feel like I want to use He\Him and They\Them while other days I feel like Just using They/Them. I don’t think I’m genderfluid though because I dont like when people use She\Her pronouns on me Any tips also to help me about this at all would be awesome! Thank you <3 -Nico 🦇⭐️👾🌙

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