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solstiale • Aug 21, 2025 @ 9:48pm

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so idk if this is a common thing among the queer community but ive felt stress due to not being able to pinpoint my exact sexuality/gender/romantic orientation/etc and i know a few others who have expressed similar feelings so i just wanna put this out there and hopefully it reaches someone who needs to hear it. its okay if you dont know exactly who you are yet, its okay if you dont know exactly who you are ever, as long as thats something you are okay with. dont feel pressured to use microlabels (if you do want to or already use them thats valid though ofc) or other specific things to describe yourself if its not gonna make you feel good. at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is that you are happy with how you describe yourself. and if you do want to figure out a specific label to describe who you are, but dont know what to label yourself as, or even what exactly you feel, thats totally okay too! figuring out your identity is a journey that takes time, its not unusual for it to take years, honestly, it seems pretty normal. so dont get too hung up on labels, and just be yourself :) edit: adding a tldr: dont worry too much about labels, and its alright and valid if you dont know exactly what you identify as also if you wanna use labels but cant find a microlabel that suits you id recommend finding an umbrella term type one and narrowing it down from there

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