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Trans girl issues (TW: Transphobia)

xtrinity • Feb 09, 2026 @ 10:14am

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so, I'm not sure if this would go in pride or vents, but since its leaning more towards the trans side of things, I think the pride would be better (if its not, please let me know - i'll move it over) Okay so I'm transfemme (MTF) and I haven't medically transitioned, yet. (only because 1. parents, and 2. you-know-who made HRT illegal for people under 18) so, my parents, mostly my mother, are extremely transphobic. my mother is christian (baptist) and uses that against me a lot - shes even forced me to go to church. only reason she stopped taking me was because I started telling people why I was there; people got mad at her. some of the things shes said about this topic "everyone around you who supports you is fake, they're just laughing behind your back." "i have a son, not a daughter." "if you continue this transfemme (censored), we won't have a good relationship" (which is the ONLY thing she 'apologized' for, but really it was more of a lecture about how she was praying about it) "you're blowing up my world, (deadname)" and in response to me telling her how much those hurt me, "those were a year ago. you should forget about that, you're just being stubborn." anywho, background is complete now. so, a few months ago, I asked her a question - "when I transition, how would that affect our relationship" to which she said that she'd pray on it. its been three months. no answer. so, I want to bring it up - mainly because if she cuts me off when i'm 18, what's the point in trying to build a relationship with her now? everything I do won't be enough for her, because she won't be in my life for much longer. but, how do I bring this up? how do I ask her? or should I even ask her at all? any advice would be appreciated.

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