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I'm so confused abt this (advice needed??)

deleted_user • Jan 28, 2026 @ 9:18pm

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Setting up the basic situation and yes this is an IRL RANT I have a small friend group of some alternative people and we have two people who liked each other! Kade is one of them (HE GOES BY THAT ONLINE DON'T KILL ME) He's been my friend for all of the school year and we share a ton of interests! We had a new student come to our school abt midway, they openly wore a lot of kandi and alt fashion and seemed very nice, we can call them K in this situation. (MAY GET CONFUSING) K and Kade started dating abt a month later, but a damn day after they started, K broke up with Kade. Kade has been in some bad stuff in the past, so this messed him up. K still acts normal and is constantly saying how she wishes she has a partner, which makes me angry considering she had a chance for a great one, but didn't take the oppurtunity. I still sit with K a lot bc she sits with all my other friends, but Kade is still not doing great, and K acts like nothing happened. K has found a partner, but still won't stop complaining. When anyone tries to call her out for that habit, she acts like we're the person who's in the wrong. All my friends know abt this and none of us say anything. I feel none of us want to ruin it. Any advice???

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