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my lgbt journeyuh (tw homophobia)

gender_envy_ceo • Oct 02, 2026 @ 7:30am

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birth-kindergarten: forced homophobia, also didnt rlly know what it was. i have a memory where i said that lgbt ppl were yucky :( 1st grade: ally, discovered that lgbt ppl werent all that bad lol 2nd grade: none of us remember this year like at all so i couldnt tell u lmao 3rd grade: ALSO dont remember this grade... tho we were an ally still? 4th grade: core memory time: asked our best friends at the time why we liked girls and they said "oh ur prob a lesbian" and we were like "oh oki" this mightve bren in 3rd grade idk our memories are very fuzzy... 5th grade: got an lgbt book (our guardians converted to ally at sum point idk when), labelled as transmasc and went by ash cuz its somewhat similar to our deadname? idk.. also i think we were pan around this time, had our first gf and first poly rrlationship too (tho it was all forced att.. no good :() also cvt our hair short (like a "boy" haircut) and weve never had it pastnour shoulders since, tho were growing it out to get lilykasa hair :33 yap yap yap summer between 5th and 6th: heard my headmates for the first time, didnt think too much of it kinda brushed it off as inner monologue. that mightve been summer of 6th and 7th? idk. 6th grade: still tmasc for most of it, pan too 7th grade: genderfluid i think? also lesbian again amd aroace, tho we switched sexualities constantly 8th grade: aroace for the beginning, genderfluid, settled into pansexual and genderfluid, tho we eventually decided to settle on sys labels. 9th grade (current): were really fluid between alters, we collectively identify as poly and genderfluid, tho systemfluid may be a better term... wdk sexuality stuff since that varies. uhhh yea creditd to the masses of people who made this before us!! ^^

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